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Receiving Touch

How often do you allow yourself to let go of control and totally receive nurturing, generative and loving touch?

Many people’s lives consist of frantically fulfilling other people’s needs and are well and entrenched in a hectic, deadline driven and sometimes organised chaos.

We are constantly being pulled left, right, up and down (sometimes all at the same time) just to get through the day. And at the end of the day we find ourselves at home with our intimate partner and wonder why sometimes it is so hard to connect with them and we feel like we are growing apart. They don’t seem to care, or don’t seem to be as interested anymore.

Mental and physical fatigue and constant stress can be huge barriers to intimacy and true deep connection. In this environment, many couples (or one of the parties) may find that intimacy and sex become more of an obligation rather than the warm, loving, nurturing joy that it can be.

For many, the act of copulation (the body parts coming together) is the definition of intimacy. This can be a wonderful way for couples to connect, however it doesn’t have to be the only way.

There are many ways for couples to share intimacy, and touch is just one of them. Your body craves to be touched, by you and by other people. Many people’s bodies do not get any where near the amount of sensual, joyful touch that it desires.

Right now, stop what you are doing and put your hands on your face and close your eyes. Take a couple of deep breaths and feel where your hands are touching your face. Just allow yourself to have a connection with your body. Feel as your fingertips move around your face. Feel the sensation, the tingles, the different pressures that occur as your fingers move over different parts of your face.

Ask your body “Body, what one thing would you like me to get from you right now?”

“What one thing are you wiling for me to receive?” Ask these questions and see if you get a response. The more in touch with your body you become, the more you will be able to perceive the response from your body. Your awareness will become more in tune with your body and your perception of this will increase.

Do this each morning when you wake up for 30 seconds and you will start to change your relationship with your body. Being able to be intimate and connect with someone else begins with you being able to be intimate and having a connection with your own body. Take time to move from your face to other parts of your body and feel gratitude for each part of your body for the role it plays.

Then you can transfer this to your partner.

Set aside some time, avoid interruptions or distractions (turn phones off), put on some soft music and prepare to receive nurturing and generative touch. Lay naked on the bed with your partner and begin by touching yourselves to connect with your own bodies. Start with your face and move around your own body and feel the sensations with each touch, each movement.

Then one person lays back to receive from their partner. The touch should be soft, light and loving. Guys, you are not in the garage working on the car or banging away in the shed. Tender and caring is required here. Do not go into ‘I won’t be able to do it properly’. Your partner will be grateful that you are honouring her body in this way and that you are willing to share this with her. It may be a little awkward to begin with if, but you will find that it very quickly begins to feel more natural and enjoyable. Stick with it.

Be totally present as you move around your partner’s body. Avoid thinking about the football, shopping lists, kids lunches etc. A Huna Massage principle is that ‘Energy flows where the focus goes’. Be completely in the moment and be as if you were uncovering an ancient treasure that has not been viewed for thousands of years. Be in awe and appreciation.

Take turns to give to each other and over time your ability to receive the pleasure and joy of touch will increase. This will also flow through to other parts of your life.

This activity does not necessarily have to lead to sex. It can be completely about receiving the touch. It is your choice if you wish to have sex, but it is that… a choice.

For many men, getting to the finish line is the only goal in the bedroom. A heads up guys, it can be really nice for your partner to engage in intimacy without the ‘obligation’ of sex at the end of it.

This activity can be a great way to share some intimacy and connect when you are both tired and drained from the day. It is not physically exerting but allows you to both connect and release stress from the day.

Please don’t feel that it has to be a serious exercise. The energy of intimacy is joy, playfulness and nurturing. Giggle, laugh and communicate……that is the intention.

Have fun with this and we would love to hear how it goes.

Love Vs. Gratitude

I had an epiphany I had to share with you all, especially coming up to Valentine’s Day when everyone is supposed to profess their love to their significant other.

But before I do that, there is something else you need to know…

Did you know that the truth will always make you feel lighter and a lie or falsehood will make you feel heavy?

Try it out now… if I say, “You’re an amazing, infinite being”, how does that make you feel? Light or heavy? Light, because you are an amazing infinite being.

And if I say, “You’re horrible and no one would ever want to have anything to do with you”, how does that make you feel? Heavy right?

So we’re working on that light/heavy, true/false premise with love and gratitude.

Now for the epiphany… every time I would tell Scott I loved him there was a tightness in my body and this had happened with every person I had said that to. In the past I would think that I didn’t really love them and break up with them, but this time I was able to look a little closer to find out what that tightness was.

Now you try it. Close your eyes and say to yourself, “I love you”. Does it feel light or heavy?

And now say to yourself, “I am so grateful to you”, how does that feel? Lighter, right?

If I love you feels heavy, then it must be a lie! What? How did that happen? Well… lets take a look at your parents doing the best that they can with the tools that they have. Did either of your parents punish you and say, “I’m doing this because I love you” or judge you about something you’ve done or how you look and say, “I love you and if I can’t tell you what you’re doing wrong in your life, who can?” Which then gives you mixed messages!

So then in your infinite wisdom love and judgement have been intrinsically entwined. No wonder love feels heavy, there is a lie attached to it.

Then when I told Scott that I am so grateful that he is in my life, it feels light and fun and free and oh, so true! There are no mixed messages there.

Everywhere you have misaligned and misapplied love with judgement, can you uncreate and destroy it now? Right, Wrong, Good, Bad, POD, POC, all nines, boys, shorts and beyonds. (Check out the access consciousness clearing statement http://www.accessconsciousness.com/content60.asp)

We are told to love our bodies, our selves, our partners, family and friends and how can we truly do that if love feels heavy to us? My suggestion to you is to change the word love to gratitude for a while until the word love feels light again. It will transform your relationship… it has ours.

Giving to Yourself

Do you feel selfish when you give to yourself? In today’s fast paced, deadline driven society, there are so many things that require our immediate attention, we are made to believe that taking time out for ourselves is, in some way, selfish and not being responsible.

I find this amazing in a time when health and wellness is so prevalent in people’s thinking. There seems to be more illnesses affecting more people than there ever used to be, in both adults and children. We are seeing more links from the preservatives and chemicals we digest in our food to severe health problems.

Stress in the workplace is reaching alarming levels. Australians are working longer hours than ever before (link). Stress related illnesses are costing the Australian economy $14.81Billion per year http://www.medibank.com.au/Client/Documents/Pdfs/The-Cost-of-Workplace-Stress.pdf . Not only is this getting worse each year, it is overflowing into employees’ home life.

And it is within this environment that we feel selfish and guilty to turn our attention to ourselves in regards to our own health and relaxation. An analogy that comes to mind is the much seen but generally ignored safety instructions on airlines. We are instructed to put our own oxygen mask on before helping children or other adults. I see a direct parallel here to health and wellness. Can you successfully care for your children and loved ones if you are unwell?

The time you take out of your day to de-stress, ground yourself, relax, energise or just take stock will allow you to be so much more effective in your role of carer, provider or supporter. By allowing yourself regular activities like massages, de-stressing sessions, exercise, yoga or meditation, you will allow your own mind and body to be cared for and revitalised in a way that will allow you to perform so much more effectively in every part of your life.

You will react so differently to screaming kids, argumentative partners or unreasonable bosses if you have just come from a massage or meditation session than if this stress has been placed on top of the great pile of stress that you store within and has never been released in any way.

Taking time out for you IS taking time out for your family. It is not a selfish act…..it is quite the opposite. Be guilty no longer and choose not to buy into feeling selfish about caring for yourself. Taking time every day, week or month to meditate, have a massage or to get help dealing with stress is one of the most responsible things that you can do for your family and loved ones.

The time you take does not have to be hours at a time. Take 3-10 minutes a day to sit quietly and meditate to help ground and relax yourself, book in massage once a month to totally drift away for an hour, take a long bath once a week or work with someone to change how you react to stressful situations.

Do your family a favour and put some ‘YOU’ time in your diary no matter how short or long the time is and book things around it as you would with any other important appointment. They will thank you for it and you will notice the difference in yourself and those around you.

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My sincere thanks for opening my eyes to the magical world of Huna Massage.

It was such a truly amazing experience that I have been telling the world about!

You made me feel so comfortable that any thoughts of a male masseur disappeared in an instance.

Thanks again

— Renee Q, Perth

As the recipient of two wonderful Huna massages by Scott Davey I am more than happy to recommend him.

From the moment I stepped into Scott’s beautiful, serene massage room I began to relax. Scott took a lot of care to ensure I felt comfortable and secure before we began. The whole experience was very positive for me. Scott is so calm and friendly and I felt respected and cared for the whole time which is a great thing when you’re a woman wearing just a towel.

The massage itself was heavenly, so relaxing and I felt very rested and refreshed when I got up from the table. This great feeling lasted for days afterward.

I will be returning for regular massages and have sent some friends to see him too. I recommend him highly for anyone who wants a superb massage.

— Renae V, Perth

Thank you Scott for the most amazing massage ever. I have only ever been massaged in the past by a female and was a little unsure how I would feel about having one from a male. Well, thank you so much for the wonderful massage and how at ease you made me feel. I felt completely relaxed and not at all self conscious or threatened. It was a truly wonderful experience to be nurtured by a male in a very non-threatening and non-sexual environment.

As a mum you tend to do all the nurturing. Thanks a bunch once again and I will see you next month for another 75 mins of pure bliss. I felt like I had left all my troubles on the massage table (not with you I hope).

— Linda S, Perth